My Non - Negotiable

Yesterday i was browsing over a magazine, and a certain article really caught my attention, its all about searching for one truel love, its the article of Bo Sanches on his magazine "Kerygma".

Bo was trying to tell to his readers about certain things to consider in looking for your other half, since it has always been a fact that settling for good is not just like an ordinary decision making. It entails a lot of prayers, sacrifices and adjustments, so before we say "I do". lets all have reflections first on what are the things that are non- negotiable, i mean things you are looking for in a man, a husbad material, for that matter:

In my case heres my list of what i want my man to be:

1. He must be a good listener.

- I am a person who is really so emotional, i oftentimes cry even for nonsense things (stupid), i am the sensitive type of person, that is why, i am looking for someone who could gives me a shoulder to lean on, on my difficult time.

2. He must be a family - oriented man.

- I always love my family and will always will, that is why if ever ill setlle for good, ill choose

for someone who will also loves my family as if his own, bonds with them, and who could

laugh with us, as we dinned together.

3. He must be gentleman, sweet but strong enough to make me grounded.

- I dont have problem being submissive, he just have to be worth it.

4. He must have sense of humor

- It always feels great that despite your hectic schedule, you will bond with someone who will

gives you a fresh smile, laughter has always been the best medicine,and for that matter,

being with someone who could just gives you a a smile despite some depressions gives the

feeling of comfort, and that made all the difference.

Fo all gals, out there, hope i have inspired you and gives you some thougths to ponder...

See yah...

Im back....

Have a nice day bloggers? hows your moning doing?

well i really missed you guys, and surely i have long way

to catched up with the blogging world,

Been so busy with my reports on our mid year planning.

That is why, was not able to update...

well my warmest "hi" to everyone..

miss u guys..

love basics?

Today marks our first mnthsary of my bf, but the day seems just so ordinary, no greetings, no celebrations..just as if nothing so extraordinary..yay..im getting so emotional, but for a woman like me, it always been the most important days in our lives, we always treasure especial occasions, yeah, i am like that.Perhaps i just expect much from the relationship, that each time it fails, i always rants about it, complain and i always have the feeling of moving out from the foursquare hole.

I always tell him that if the day comes that he no longer felt something special for me, he should just be honest and tell me directly about what he truelly felt, coz i dont want that ill came to a point that i would be overstepping my boundary, in the sense that, i would believe that i have the right over him but in reality, i have nothing over him, since he is emotionally unattached, its just better to be civil and have separate lives that expecting too much from him, from us.

I still remember, a very sad thing, it was the mourn of my grand mom, i asked him to be at the house and joined the family for the night vigil, as i was expceting him to be gentleman in a way that he would accept my favor and be at the house for tbat night, but to my dismay, he choose to be with his friends and enjoy their company. It was quite sad on my part because as his gf, i was emotionally down at that time, and i need his shoulder to lean on, but he didnt show up. That was the first time i felt so bad, not on him but on his attitude, i knew i need to accept him in both sides, as we are in the process of adjustments but sometimes im getting tired for always understanding, sometimes my heart also get tired, it sometimes think of giving up..

I just wander, coz my friends say that a relationship should always be a home where you can find comforts of a partner, a home for both joy and sorrow as you get along with the trials and tests of life, a relationship should be a bridge to bring goodness and welfare to both partners, and if it doenst, it is not love based, its a selfish relationship.

An ideal partner should be at your side during the saddest times of your life, he would think of you than of his own, love should be not be self centerd..If at the end of the day you find yourself, still unhappy, just take time and never waste a single moment to look for a man who would provide your other half..coz true love waits.

The best of life

" The best and the most beautiful things in this world cannot even seen nor heared, but must be felt within

the HEART"

What a beautiful statements, indeed..this just tells us about how mysterious our life is.

Coz even if how we are sorrounded with the conforts life, still you find emptiness, if you feel unloved.

Basically, love is such so powerful that an individual can even walked a hundred kilometers, crosses

oceans, and even gave the stars for the one person they love, to the apple of their eye.

Nevertheless, despite the beautiful feeling that it gave to us, it also brings the most painful

memories in our life, the unforgettable brokenness in oneselves..

Anyhow, at the end of each day, its still Love

that makes the world go round...

life's moments

i heared from my teacher, wayback on my high school days, of that particular saying..

Indeed life is not about milestones, it about how you spend quality times together..

i just wanna share something about the death of my beloved lola..

whom at this very hour, i knew is in paradise with the Almighty

im sure of that....

She passed away, last thursday night, with a diagnosed - major organ complications

The family knew that our lola will soon be leaving as the doctor gave her only a few months

as her disease would spread on her entire body.We knew all along that major operations

would be so impossible since, she was already too old for that.Even she, herself said

that it would be best for her to go home, and spend time with us..

Since we were all busy with our respective works, we often find it hard to spend a talk

with her in each passing day, in my case, twice a week would be best, if we could be together

knowing the nature of my work and my location.

I often regrets now, why i didnt find time to even just tell her how much she's special.

i often regret that i havent tell her, that all this time im very much grateful

that i have a great lola, like her..

Now, i misse her presence, i missed how she was really a great woman.

She was a true sense of motherhood.She is really a woman of great honor.

I missed the way she cares for us, coz it all reminds me of her sacrifices

especially when we were studying..

But one thing i want to share to everybody else..

that i guesss and i believe that is important in our daily life..

is to learn how to value our loved one, be expressive and learn how to say i love u

even in the most simplest way, because life is not about the years we lived,

rather its about the moments weve created.....

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As a tourguide i go for site which is really helpful,simple yet very much informative, the blog has an amazing pictures, a must see blog if you want to look for scenic places, or if youre looking for a great travel..

emo..

im really not the type of person who bring along my stories, my frustrations to the open, but just to relieve this burden, i wanna just share my disappointments and my tears as well.

honestly, i felt broken..i felt empty...still dont know what to write this time,all i knew..i wanted to ease the pain..i just want to cry and cry and cry...and just sleep. hoping tomorrow, it would be a different day..

i dont dream for a perfect relationship nor look for someone so ideal,.a man who could just makes me laugh will do,.

i knew that relationship has its ups and downs, but i dont believe that it would bring all along the grief and pain..coz if he really loves me, he would look for ways not to hurt me either,,but every passing day, i always feel unloved, i feel being used, i felt that i am always alone, like i was before...whats the use of settling with the relationship?

It all started when i asked the typical question of "do u love me?" hopin he would reply with the most flattering words...as the case maybe,,,but to my dismay,,he left me hangin,,and choose not to answer at all..i know i didnt have the right to question him, coz nobody could force us to say things, if he really doesnt feel it, he was just being honest..

and i was just a dreamer...

its also my fault,,,i fall in love,,i should take the pain, the consequence...

accept the fact that he doesnt love me, he will not love me...
i dont know,,,it still hurts...

enough,,,

Love lesson for the day

i always feel disappointed and frustrated in my relationship

i always ask "why?', i always wonder whay the feelings bothers me whenever

im with him, i want to believe that thi will just pass, and that

its just part of the adjustments, but id didnt..

My friends always reminds me to a fact that

a relationship should always brings something good for you.

it will give you joy, somehow, pain in some few times.

frustrations, perhaps and some sort of inspiration..

I always look for that things, in him, in us..

but neither do i felt some strange things..

neither do i feel inspired

neither do i feel loved...

The barrometer should be,,

When sticking with someone else

the determining factor should be LOVE

coz everything will come along...

as i always search for that feeling, for him..

i always end up with one realization..

that you can never teach your heart, nor can you force

to be in love with somebody else...]

it always feels good to fall

and i always look forward to that very day

that i will confidently say to all

"that at last ive found the one"

What color best describes love?

What color best decribes love?....

...for all we knew, red best describes it, during valenstines, red dominates the
season of love, it best expersses coursthip and love if roses are red..
ballons, candies and stuif toys are saleble duing valentines..
have we every wonder why?

actually love has no definites colors, nor does cupid prescribed any..
its just actually our common cultures and practices that prescribed what is acceptable
and what is being accepted by the social stigma...

personally, i go with pink,..for love
not because it my personal favorite but
its how i am being expressed as a person..
its actualy a color of feminiity
a color for for ladylike
a color best suited for good listener
for being gentle, caring
and above all
for being sweet...

as it all speaks
thats what's
LOVE
for me

rants and thoughts

"Yes..its really sad to belong to someone else

when the right one comes along"

-----how could you say, youre falling to someone else,

when your with committed to somebody else..

would you say, you just woke up, realizing that

he's not anymore a part of your dream,

or would you just tell him that..

you were not there to cath me

as i fall......