This is an excrept from one of my emails which i wanted to share to all the girls who were into the "just friends" arrangement..which i think is common nowadays..and at the same time this helped me understand why the "just friends" syndrome is so widespread.A guy wants to get to know a girl but wihout the pressure of dating. So he spends a lot of time with her, treating her in many ways like a girlfriend but defining the relationship as friends. This way, if it begins to look like there's no future in the relationship, or hes not ready to get serious, he can back away with no messy break up. it sounds like a nice arrangement - for the guy.
But that approach can be a problem for the woman.If a man tells a woman he just wants "to be friends" but he treats her like its more than friendship, she will believe his behaviour instead of his words. It sets her up for a big disappointment. Or if he invokes the "just freinds" mantra after being asked about the nature of the relationship, but then promptly begins to distance himself from the friendship, again his actions do not match his words
Women can be great friends, But guys, unless you are ready for a dating relationship, please be careful to treat us, as sisters with absolute purity,not as girlfriends,,,NOR SOMETHING IN BETWEEN.
Thursday, January 10, 2008
Destiny
It is not "destiny" that determines "love" it is "Choice".Our so called destiny is a LIE..
Relationships last long not because theyre destined to last long..Relationships last long because two brave people made a choice - to keep it, to fight for it and to work for it. Meanwhile other relationships failed not because theyre destined to fail. They failed because one of the two, or both made the choice - to set each other free.Sometimes we failed to understand and made a lot of allybys that we want space, or commonly we always stick to the stigma that if were really meant to be, at the end of the day we will be together??????how nice to hear..apparantly its the choice of one individual, if he felt its not working anymore,,,its over,,its not destiny,,its the feelings...sad but thats a fact.
Relationships last long not because theyre destined to last long..Relationships last long because two brave people made a choice - to keep it, to fight for it and to work for it. Meanwhile other relationships failed not because theyre destined to fail. They failed because one of the two, or both made the choice - to set each other free.Sometimes we failed to understand and made a lot of allybys that we want space, or commonly we always stick to the stigma that if were really meant to be, at the end of the day we will be together??????how nice to hear..apparantly its the choice of one individual, if he felt its not working anymore,,,its over,,its not destiny,,its the feelings...sad but thats a fact.
no text
its past lunch time but i didnt received any text from him...maybe hes so busy and forgot about me...but i cant imagine coz most of the time he would ask permission..ohh my,,maybe lots of reports,,or maybe he got tired last night..hehehhe,but i know before he will go to sleep he will call me,,hehehe.hopefully.ohhhhhhhhh?
i missed him.
im really so sleepy..grabe,,imagine for almost 3 weeks i always sleep about 1 am,,,huhuhu,,my eyebags are really that big..but its ok,coz im tired from the hang outs and and texts..hehehe.
last night, i went home about 1:30 in the morning already, apparently our gate was locked,i stayed outside for almost 30 minutes,i was so afraid since there are lots of tambay in our place..i just called up my boardmate for her to open the gate,,,and she did,,thanks.heheh,after which i didnt sleep pa,,kasi we've texted pa with my friend...kasi naman po makulit..hehehe..pero love ko naman yun,,,hes really so nice,,he always awakes me when i need to be early..he would really alarm hi cell and wake up his princess..hahahhah..mwah
last night, i went home about 1:30 in the morning already, apparently our gate was locked,i stayed outside for almost 30 minutes,i was so afraid since there are lots of tambay in our place..i just called up my boardmate for her to open the gate,,,and she did,,thanks.heheh,after which i didnt sleep pa,,kasi we've texted pa with my friend...kasi naman po makulit..hehehe..pero love ko naman yun,,,hes really so nice,,he always awakes me when i need to be early..he would really alarm hi cell and wake up his princess..hahahhah..mwah
just when ive thought ive fall in love
i guess the greatest feeling in life, is to be able to feel that youre special. its an every woman's dream.to love and be loved..however there are really instances that when we've thought he's already the one,,,only to find out he was mr. maybe...ohhh god..so tired of searching but still im looking forward for the falling and rising and everything in between.